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Rejection stings at the core of our identity, challenging our worth and purpose in moments that feel like failures rather than redirections. But what if these closed doors are actually divine protections guiding us away from paths not meant for us?

This bonus episode explores seven powerful truths about rejection that transform our perspective from defeat to destiny. When relationships end, job opportunities slip away, or dreams crumble, we often ask "why me?" But the better question might be "what now, Lord?" This subtle shift moves us from paralysis to purpose, from mourning to meaning.

Through biblical examples like Joseph, whose rejection by his brothers led to saving many lives, and David, who was overlooked before becoming king, we see that rejection doesn't define our future—it refines our direction. God's sovereignty uses our disappointments as detours toward something better, though we rarely see it in the moment.

The practical wisdom shared here reaches beyond spiritual platitudes. From the dangers of venting rejection pain on social media to the importance of processing hurt with trusted friends rather than followers, these insights offer a roadmap for healing with dignity and hope. Remember: there's much more to you than the part that was rejected, and often what feels like rejection is actually protection from what wouldn't have been best.

Whether you're nursing the fresh wound of a breakup, struggling with professional disappointment, or wrestling with long-standing rejection, this message reminds you that heartbreak isn't where your story ends—it's where the Author meets you most personally. Your breaking can become your making when placed in God's capable hands.

What painful door has closed in your life that might actually be redirecting you to something better? This question might just be the beginning of seeing rejection through eyes of faith rather than failure.

Chapters

• 0:00 What Rejection Can't Define About You
• 7:52 Seven Truths to Remember When Rejected
• 16:57 Rejection Is Not a Projection of Future Failures
• 22:03 Rejection Enables You to Adjust and Move Forward
• 26:13 God's Protection in Every Rejection
• 32:01 Ask What Questions, Not Why Questions
• 37:01 Don't Hash, Bash or Trash Online

Transcript

Daniel Moore: 0:11

God sees the whole picture, what's ahead, what's hidden and what we cannot comprehend at the time. In His mercy, he allows some relationships to end, opportunities to slip through our hands or plans to fall apart, not because he wants to hurt us, but because he wants to protect us, as Isaiah 55, 8-9 says. For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. This week, on Connecting the Gap, we're going to throw out a bonus episode to go with our series on rejection seven things to remember when rejected. We'll be back with this week's episode of Connecting the Gap right after this.

Daniel Moore: 1:01

Outro Music. Welcome to Connecting the Gap. This is a podcast about marriage, bible and book studies, and we interview people sometimes to have a story. I'm Daniel Moore, your host. Thank you for joining us this week. If you're not familiar with our show, check out our website at wwwconnectingthegapnet and there you'll find all of our platforms. Our YouTube and Rumble links are there. We're also on the Christian podcasting app, edify, and you can also visit us on social, on Facebook and Instagram at ctgaponline, if you're a fan of our show, please subscribe, feel free to leave a comment on our platforms, give us a thumbs up or a five-star review on Apple Podcasts, and we thank you for doing that in advance.

Daniel Moore: 2:10

Well, as I stated here in the intro, I have a bonus episode for you this week that goes with our little mini-series that we finished here a couple of weeks ago on rejection, and we're going to get through that here in just a moment. I do want to let you know that we do have a new service that we are offering. If you go to our website at connectingthegapnet or marriagelifeandmorecom, either one of those will get you to there. We are now certified Symbus facilitators for the Symbus assessment and my wife and I are offering that now as premarital counseling, and you can also do that as postmarital counseling as well, and if you'd like to learn more about that, you can visit our website. There's a link there for Simba's assessment. Just click that and that'll give you all the details. And again, you can check that out there on the website at marriagelifeandmorecom or connectingthegapnet. Well, as I said, this week we are going to be doing a bonus episode that goes with our rejection series. Next week, lord willing, we're going to be starting a three-part series on our marriage episodes. We have a couple coming in that's going to be talking to us about three different types of scenarios that they have in their marriage and we're going to break those up into a three-week series. So make sure you check that out, subscribe so that you won't miss those episodes. But for this week we're going to be talking again a little bit about rejection and seven things to remember.

Daniel Moore: 3:37

When rejected, jennifer slid into the passenger seat of the car as her son, Caleb, climbed in behind the wheel. They were headed to one of her favorite spots, a quiet lakeside trail where they liked to walk and talk when life felt a little bit too loud. He handed her a coffee he had picked up for her just how she liked it black, with a splash of almond milk. He had his usual an iced latte with extra vanilla. They sat for a moment in the parking lot, drinks in hand. The windows cracked just enough to let the spring air in. Caleb took a deep breath, then pulled out his phone it's in my inbox, he muttered then locked the screen, tossed the phone into the cup holder. I really just don't want to look.

Daniel Moore: 4:33

Yet he had applied to his dream internship, a competitive program that only took a handful of students from across the country. The results had been emailed earlier that morning, but he hadn't been able to face it alone. So there they were together. Sometimes facing a possible letdown is just a little more bearable when someone's sitting beside you. Caleb had poured everything into his application. He had researched, revised, asked for feedback and practiced interviews with her in the kitchen while making late-night ramen. But even with all of his effort, he couldn't shake the doubt.

Daniel Moore: 5:16

A few years earlier he had faced a blow that still echoed in his confidence. It was his junior year of high school when he tried out for the varsity soccer team. He had made JV as a freshman and sophomore and had trained all summer for his next step, but when the roster was posted his name wasn't on it. No explanation, just not there. The coach said he didn't have quite what they were looking for that year. It wasn't personal, but to Caleb it felt like a door slammed shut in a hallway. He'd been walking down for years.

Daniel Moore: 5:53

His teammates moved on without him, practices happened without him, and though he joined a club team later, something in him shifted. He started questioning his ability, his worth, his direction. That rejection had cut deep. But over time he found other passions writing, photography, volunteer work with local wildlife programs. He began to see himself as more than just an athlete. He began to see himself as more than just an athlete. He grew in ways that varsity soccer could never have stretched him.

Daniel Moore: 6:29

Now here he was, an environmental science major with a heart for conservation and a mind built for problem solving. This internship would be a massive step forward, but not getting it. Well, that would feel just like that heavy echo of that soccer cut. She gave him a quiet nod Whenever you're ready, son. He picked up the phone again, thumb hovering over the screen for a long second before he opened the email Silence. Then he exhaled I didn't get it. She reached over and placed her hand on his arm. His eyes were a little glassy, but he didn't look away. I'm okay, he said softly. I just really thought this was it. They didn't rush the moment. They sat in that stillness by the lake, the weight of disappointment shared between them, and then, slowly they got out and started walking the trail. That rejection didn't undo him, it didn't define him and, just like before, it would eventually lead him somewhere unexpected. And even better Sometimes a closed door isn't the end. It's just a turn toward a path you hadn't considered yet.

Daniel Moore: 8:04

The enemy loves to take the sting of rejection and twist it into a deep, irrational fear that God either doesn't care about us or lacks a good plan for our lives. This fear doesn't just sit silently in the background. It becomes a toxic companion that whispers lies, seeking to replace the truth. We've stood on with hopelessness. The enemy knows that whatever consumes our attention begins to control our direction. So the more our minds are filled with rejection, the more easily he manipulates our emotions, thoughts and our choices. That's exactly where anxiety begins to suffocate our peace, uncertainty drowns out our faith, and discouragement dims the light of our joy.

Daniel Moore: 8:48

When we're hurting and worn down by disappointment, we often wonder what to do next. Well, the answer lies in a deliberate return to God. We must praise Him with our lips even when it's hard, seek Him daily in prayer, look to Him for guidance, call on His name continually and remain open to experiencing His presence. We must commit to fearing God over fearing rejection, learning from His Word, honoring Him in our decisions, drawing near to Him with our whole hearts and taking our refuge in His promises. These actions are not just spiritual habits. They are powerful steps that help us remove the grip of fear and place our confidence back where it belongs with God, our Father and King.

Daniel Moore: 9:38

We reclaim what fear tries to steal by actively engaging with the truth of who God is. By doing this, we no longer give control to things or people that were never meant to have it. Instead, we make a bold declaration that God is our ultimate authority, our steady anchor and the one worthy of our trust. We don't just survive rejection, we grow through it by standing firm in God's unchanging love. Well, this week, to help us live this out when rejection tries to silence us or shame us, we're going to walk through seven truths to hold on to and speak over our lives. The first one, one rejection, is not a projection of future failures. So often we internalize a single painful moment and assume it defines the rest of our lives.

Daniel Moore: 10:33

But God has a different story. Consider the example of Joseph. He was rejected by his own brothers, sold into slavery and later thrown into prison for something he didn't do. From the outside, his life looked like a series of devastating roadblocks. However, in Genesis 50-20, joseph told his brothers you intended to harm me, but God intended it for good, to accomplish what is now being done the saving of many lives. Joseph's rejection was not the end. It was the beginning of God's greater purpose unfolding in his life.

Daniel Moore: 11:14

Another example is David, who was overlooked even by his own family. When Samuel came to anoint the next king In 1 Samuel 16, David wasn't even invited to the initial selection process. It looked like rejection, but God had chosen him all along. That hidden, unseen young shepherd would go on to become a mighty king. Psalm 118.22 confirms this pattern. The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone. What man overlooks, god honors in due time.

Daniel Moore: 11:53

Even Jesus Christ himself was rejected repeatedly. Isaiah 53.3 says he was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering and familiar with pain. Yet his rejection led to the greatest victory in eternity our salvation. His story assures us that rejection doesn't disqualify us In God's hands. It refines repositions and repurposes us for something greater. Think of someone who didn't get the job they prayed for, only to be led to a better opportunity that aligned more with their calling. Or the person whose relationship ended, only to later meet someone who is a far better fit spiritually and emotionally.

Daniel Moore: 12:39

Rejection is often redirection. Proverbs 3, 5-6 says Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding In all of your ways. Proverbs 3, 5-6 says when we trust God, even our disappointments become steps toward His plan. Another example is the Apostle Paul, initially rejected and distrusted by the early church due to his past. Paul could have let that define him, yet it did not.

Daniel Moore: 13:12

God used Paul powerfully, despite initial rejection. In fact, much of the New Testament is written by him. In Galatians 1.10,. Paul reminds us If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. Rejection by people freed Paul to be fully committed to God's will. So when rejection enters your life, don't receive it as a prophecy over your future. Receive it as a temporary obstacle that God can use to build your faith, deepen your dependence and redirect you to His best. Romans 8.28 stands as a powerful promise and we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose. One note today may very well be setting you up for an even greater yes tomorrow. Let rejection be a reminder not of your shortcomings but of God's sovereignty. Your story isn't over because one door closes. God has a way of opening one far better in His timing. The second step rejection doesn't label you. It enables you to adjust and move on.

Daniel Moore: 14:26

The way we respond to rejection is not determined by the rejection itself, but by the perspective we choose to have moving forward. Life offers us a choice to view rejection through a realistic lens that leads to growth, or through a pessimistic one that leads to discouragement and emotional paralysis. A realistic view acknowledges the pain of rejection but understands it doesn't define our identity or worth. It allows us to reassess, learn and shift our direction toward what God might be doing or preparing. On the other hand, a pessimistic view sees rejection as a permanent label, a message that we aren't good enough and never will be. This approach breeds insecurity, self-doubt and leads us away from hope.

Daniel Moore: 15:20

Scripture reminds us of the importance of how we frame our trials. Scripture reminds us of the importance of how we frame our trials. In Philippians 4.8,. Paul instructs us to fix our thoughts on what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable. This is not blind optimism. It's choosing to dwell on what builds faith rather than what fuels fear.

Daniel Moore: 15:47

Rejection might be real, but so is the grace and the guidance of God. Consider the example of Samuel in Israel in 1 Samuel 8. When the people demanded a king to rule over them, it wasn't just a political request, it was a rejection of God's leadership through Samuel. Naturally, samuel took this personally, but God told him in verse 7, it is not you that they have rejected, they have rejected me as their king. Samuel could have taken that as a personal label of failure, but instead he adjusted, followed God's direction and anointed Saul.

Daniel Moore: 16:24

Another example is Peter. He denied Jesus three times, a clear moment of rejection and failure. Yet when Jesus restored him in John 21, he didn't label Peter by his failure. He called him to love his followers and lead the church. That painful moment didn't define Peter. It enabled him to grow in grace and carry out one of the most important roles in the early church.

Daniel Moore: 16:51

Proverbs 24, 16 says For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes. This scripture reminds us that falling or facing rejection is not the end. Rising again is where victory lies. Rejection can be a divine redirection wrapped in disappointment. When we trust God through it, we'll find that rejection was not labeling us as failures, but training us for faithfulness. Ultimately, your response to rejection is your responsibility. You can let it stop you or you can let it shape you into someone stronger, more dependent on God and more aligned with His purpose for your life. One view leads to defeat and the other leads to destiny. The choice is yours.

Daniel Moore: 17:52

The third step there is usually some element of protection wrapped in every rejection. This truth is often incredibly difficult to recognize while we're in the midst of pain. At the moment, rejection feels like a cruel halt, a loss or a failure, but when we look back with the clarity that time and God's wisdom bring, we often realize that what felt like a door slammed shut was actually God's hand shielding us from something that wasn't as best for us. God sees the whole picture what's ahead, what's hidden and what we cannot comprehend at the time. In His mercy, he allows some relationships to end, opportunities to slip through our hands or plans to fall apart, not because he wants to hurt us, but because he wants to protect us, as Isaiah 55, 8, and 9 says. For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways. My ways, declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.

Daniel Moore: 19:00

One clear biblical example of protection in rejection is in Acts 16. Paul and his companions were traveling to preach the gospel and they wanted to go into Asia, but Scripture says they were quote kept by the Holy Spirit from preaching the word in the province of Asia, end quote. Then they tried to enter Bithynia, but the Spirit of the Lord would not allow them to At the time. This must have been confusing and disappointing. But it wasn't punishment, it was divine redirection. Shortly afterward, paul had a vision of a man in Macedonia asking for help, and they realized God was calling them there. Instead, that very redirection opened the door to a powerful ministry in Philippi.

Daniel Moore: 19:51

In our own lives we may reflect on times when we didn't land the job, we weren't accepted into the school or the relationship didn't work out, and only later did we see how harmful or misaligned these things would have been. God was not withholding good from us. He was guarding us from something that could hinder or harm us. Psalm 84, 11 assures us For the Lord, god is a sun and shield. The Lord bestows favor and honor. No good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless. If it was withheld, it wasn't a good thing for us, at least not for that season.

Daniel Moore: 20:30

Another relatable example is in dating or friendships. You may have deeply wanted a relationship to work out, only to experience rejection and heartbreak. But as time passed you saw things about the person's character, lifestyle or values that would have led to a great deal of pain or distraction, or values that would have led to a great deal of pain or distraction. Once you once called rejection, you now call God's protection. Rejection hurts, there's no doubt about that, but it can also be a loving act of divine intervention. What feels like a loss may be God saving you from something that would have compromised your peace, purpose or even your safety. You can trust in Proverbs 3, 5-6, where it says trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, and in all your ways submit to Him, and he will make your paths straight. So when you're wrestling with why something ended or didn't go your way, try asking something ended or didn't go your way. Try asking God were you protecting me? You may not see it right away, but over time you'll often find that His mercy was hidden in the closed doors. Rejection may sting in the moment, but in the hands of a loving and sovereign God, it can be the very thing that keeps us aligned with His perfect will. God, it can be the very thing that keeps us aligned with His perfect will.

Daniel Moore: 22:02

The fourth step. It's good to ask the what? Questions, but less helpful to ask why. When we encounter rejection, disappointment or relational hurt, our knee-jerk reaction is often to ask why did this happen to me or why would they do this? The focusing on the why often lures us into a loop of frustration, confusion and helplessness, because most why questions revolve around things beyond our control, such as other people's decisions, unseen motives and outcomes that we can't change. On the other hand, asking what questions invites growth. It redirects our attention to what we can learn, what we can change and how we can move forward. Questions like what is God trying to teach me in this or what can I learn about myself from this experience those questions will shift us from passive to purposeful. Those questions cultivate humility and open the door to deeper emotional and spiritual maturity.

Daniel Moore: 23:02

Pride tends to fuel the why questions. It whispers it's all their fault, you did nothing wrong. It keeps us in a place of blame which might feel comforting in the moment but is ultimately paralyzing. In contrast, insecurity hijacks the why to say you must be the problem. If you were smarter, better, more lovable, this wouldn't have happened. More lovable, this wouldn't have happened. Both pride and insecurity keep us staring in the rear view mirror, either justifying ourselves or condemning ourselves, but neither help us move forward.

Daniel Moore: 23:40

Take Peter in the Bible, for example. After he denied Jesus three times, jesus didn't meet him with the harsh interrogation of why did you do that? Instead, in John, chapter 21, verses 15 through 17, jesus asked do you love me? And he asked him that three times. His questions were restorative, not accusatory. Jesus was asking essentially what are you going to do with your love now, peter? He wasn't asking him why did you mess up so badly? Those questions pushed Peter towards purpose, not paralysis. Another question is when God confronted Adam in Genesis 3 after the fall, he didn't begin with an angry why? He starts with where are you? And then, what is this you have done?

Daniel Moore: 24:37

Even God himself models the what approach not to shame, but to awaken self-awareness. Paul gives us another lens in Philippians 3, 13-14 when he says forgetting what is behind and straining forward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal. Paul isn't wasting energy asking why did I persecute Christians or why didn't the churches accept me right away? Instead, he shifts his focus to what God has called him to do next. That's the practical wisdom that we need for emotional and spiritual forward motion. Now let's be honest.

Daniel Moore: 25:14

Sometimes we ask why? Not because we're searching for clarity, but because we want validation for our frustration. It's like asking why did that barista get my coffee order wrong? We get riled up over things that aren't worth the energy and meanwhile we're missing the deeper what Like what's in my heart that's making me so easy to offend today. It's like standing in front of a locked door, knocking continuously, asking why won't you open, when all along there's another open door behind you with snacks, air conditioning and life-giving answers, but we never turn around because we like being dramatic.

Daniel Moore: 25:55

Sometimes we're just not being deep, we're just being stuck, ultimately asking God what are you saying to me through this? Or what steps should I take next? Invites His presence into our healing. Step should I take next? Invites His presence into our healing. Even Psalm 139, 23-24 reflects this heart where it says Search me, god, and know my heart, see if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting.

Daniel Moore: 26:24

David wasn't asking why others hated him. He was asking what God wanted to reveal about Himself. Asking why others hated him. He was asking what God wanted to reveal about himself. So the next time rejection hits, instead of sinking into the mystery of why, ask the meaningful what that grows you. It's not weak to be hurt, but it's wise to rise stronger. And sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is replace why me with what now, lord. The fifth step here is don't hash, bash or trash on the internet. Remember the internet never forgets, and this is a tough one.

Daniel Moore: 27:15

In the raw pain of rejection, it can be tempting to vent publicly, to post vague status updates, cryptic quotes or sad emojis in hopes that someone will notice our pain. While that may offer a momentary sense of validation or relief, it rarely leads to meaningful healing and can instead create lasting consequences. A trusted, wise friend can be a safe space to process our hurt. They can listen without judgment, help separate truth from emotion and speak compassion with discernment. They know the real you, not just the reactionary moment, and won't label you forever based on what you say when your heart is vulnerable. But social media doesn't offer that kind of grace. It plays judge and jury without context, what you post in a moment of rejection can easily be screenshotted, shared, misinterpreted or even brought back up long after you've grown past it.

Daniel Moore: 28:17

Proverbs 12.18 warns us the words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. When we impulsively air our emotions online, our reckless words often hurt others and ourselves. That venting session may feel justified, but it's like throwing a verbal grenade at a digital crowd. The damage can't be undone even after you've deleted the post. Ephesians 4.29 adds to this. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up, that it may benefit those who listen. So let's ask ourselves does what I'm about to post build up or does it break down? Does it reflect who I want to be tomorrow or just how I feel today? Who I want to be tomorrow or just how I feel today?

Daniel Moore: 29:13

Consider this you go through a breakup and in your hurt, you post a meme dripping with bitterness and caption it with a sad face and cryptic line, like some people were never real. To begin with it seems harmless enough, but people will start speculating. Friends take sides, comments pour in. Suddenly, a private heartbreak becomes a public spectacle Weeks later, when you've moved on or reconciled. Your post is still out there, shaping how others view you, and it's not just romantic relationships.

Daniel Moore: 29:47

Workplace disputes, church drama or friendship breakdowns also tempt us to quote-unquote, let it out online. But James 1.19 reminds us that everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, and that also includes being slow to post. The internet moves fast, but wisdom moves slow. Wisdom considers how today's reaction will be remembered tomorrow. A moment of honesty can become a moment of humiliation when shared too widely. Turn to a trusted friend, not followers. Process in prayer before posting in public. Jesus himself, when betrayed by Judas and denied by Peter, which are two very deep emotional wounds, responded with truth and grace, not an online rants or crowdsourced validation. He brought his pain to the Father in prayer and not to the mob. Rejection hurts, but healing happens best in a safe and private space, not on a social media thread. Guard your heart and your keyboard. That emoji of heartbreak or those passive-aggressive lyrics posted at midnight may not say what you really mean and they won't help you heal. Sometimes the most mature response is silence, and the wisest post is no post at all.

Daniel Moore: 31:19

The sixth step is there's much more to you than the part that was rejected. One of the hard parts of rejection is the unsettling time gap it suddenly creates. That once filled space in your schedule, the conversations, the dreams, the events that you planned is now an empty void, and it can leave you feeling completely disoriented. The rejection might have ended a relationship, closed the door on a job or dismantled a long-held dream, but it didn't cancel your purpose, your identity or your potential. There's much more to you than the part that was rejected. There's much more to you than the part that was rejected. This is an important truth to remind yourself of. Rejection may touch a part of your life, but it does not define the entirety of who you are. The time that rejection seems to steal is actually time that can be redeemed for rediscovery, growth and healing.

Daniel Moore: 32:21

In Ecclesiastes 3.1 it says there is a time for everything and a season for every activity. Under the heavens. That means even seasons of loss have purpose, not to strip us bare but to shape us in preparation for something greater. I mean think of David when he was a shepherd boy. He wasn't invited to the prophet Samuel's big anointing ceremony. At first, his own father thought he wasn't significant enough, but God told Samuel in 1 Samuel 16, 7,. David didn't let that rejection define him. Instead, the quiet obscurity of the fields became a time of preparation for the battlefield and, ultimately, the throne. Who we are becoming in the quiet spaces might be the most powerful part of our journey.

Daniel Moore: 33:14

Another example is Naomi in the book of Ruth. After losing her husband and sons, she saw herself only through the lens of her pain, saying in Ruth 1.20,. Don't call me Naomi, call me Mara, because the Almighty has made my life very bitter. But God was not done with her story. Through Ruth's loyalty and Boaz's favor, naomi's life was restored. The part of her that had been bruised and emptied was not the whole of her story. Her legacy lived on through Ruth's line, the lineage of Jesus.

Daniel Moore: 33:52

When you're left with extra time after rejection, it's natural to feel left out and feel lost, but it's also an opportunity. What gifts have you neglected that God might be now calling you to develop? What passions have you shelved because your schedule didn't allow space for them? This new margin can become a launch pad, not a graveyard. Paul 139.14 reminds us I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. I know that full well. God didn't create you for just one opportunity, one relationship or one path. His design for you includes many layers, many expressions of calling and more seasons of usefulness than your past could ever limit. So when rejection removes something from your life, it doesn't remove your value. It may just be clearing the space for something in you that has been waiting to emerge. You're still gifted, you're still called, you still matter. Let this new time help reveal more of what God has written into your story, because there's much more to you than the part that was rejected. And the seventh step don't let this heartbreak destroy you. Let this breaking actually be the making of you. Let God use it in good ways to make you stronger and take you further.

Daniel Moore: 35:27

God's ultimate desire in any relationship marriage, friendship or partnership is not solely happiness. He's after holiness, growth and purpose. As much as we may want to build a beautiful life together with someone simply to enjoy it, god often invites us to step into something deeper—partnership with Him in kingdom work. He didn't bring us together just for the comfort of companionship, but to shape us through the relationship and use our union, or even our unraveling, for eternal significance. If God had allowed everything to remain perfect and easy. We might have grown strong in our own abilities and become resistant to relying on Him. Our independent strength, while impressive on the surface, would have eventually crippled our effectiveness for kingdom assignments. Real kingdom strength is forged in surrender. It rises from weakness and is rooted in a deep dependency on God. The breaking of us becomes the making of us, as 2 Corinthians 12 9 says my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. It's through the very breaking that God's power can be displayed and our testimony deepened.

Daniel Moore: 36:49

Heartbreak is not a foreign concept to the Christian life. It has been part of different seasons in my own marriage Times, when love was stretched thin, when words wounded deeper than we knew they could and when the disappointment of unmet expectations felt overwhelming. Those moments seemed to expose nothing but weakness. But God used them and what he produced through our willingness to forgive, grow and cling to Him was a strength we couldn't have developed in seasons of ease. For those whose marriages or significant relationships didn't survive the heartbreak, please know these truths aren't reserved for couples who are still together. God is not done with you. The ending of a relationship is not the ending of your value. Relationship is not the ending of your value, your purpose or God's presence in your life. Even in that pain, god still walks with you. Psalm 3418 says the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Daniel Moore: 37:56

Crushed moments don't cancel your calling. In fact, they may carve a deeper space for God's presence to dwell. You might feel angry, confused or devastated. Maybe you've pounded your fist on the steering wheel, screamed into your pillow or compared your journey to others who seem to have it easier. And you know God sees it all. He's not afraid of the jagged edges of your hurt. To others you may seem like too much, too raw, too hurt or too broken, but not to God. He does not recoil. He draws near. He covers you in grace and gently gathers each broken piece.

Daniel Moore: 38:41

Isaiah 61, 3 promises that God gives beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning and a garment of praise for a spirit of despair. He specializes in restoring what we thought was lost forever. When we allow Him to access to our pain, he doesn't waste it. He works through it to develop something deeper Character, perseverance, wisdom, empathy and purpose. If you're in that vulnerable place today, let it push you closer to the one who will never reject you. Let your mourning become a doorway, not a dead end. Let your tears become the water that softens your heart again, not the flood that drowns your hope.

Daniel Moore: 39:27

Job 23, 10 says but he knows the way that I take when he has tested me. I will come forth as gold. That's your story too. You will not stay shattered. Step by step, hand in hand, you will come forth stronger, wiser and more anchored. As we conclude this episode this week, remember that heartbreak is not where your story ends. It's where the author meets you most personally. Let the breaking be the making of you, not because the pain was good, but because God is and he is faithful to complete what he started in you. Not a single moment of your hurt is being wasted in His hands. Keep on walking. Healing is coming and victory is on the horizon. Well, that's going to do it for this week's episode.

Daniel Moore: 40:23

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Each week In this world, there are many disconnects that cause chaos in our lives. This podcast is birthed from the desire to share hope and restoration of the power of the gospel by being transparent and open in our biblical walk with God. Each week, we take a few moments as we navigate God's Word and peer into other people's testimonies and encourage each other to connect the gap. We upload a new audio podcast every Thursday and a video version of it on YouTube and Rumble. We are also on the Christian podcasting app, edify. You can subscribe to our podcast on many of the available podcasting platforms, such as Apple Podcasts, deezer, spotify, amazon Music, iheart Radio, tunein Radio and many more. We are also available on your Alexa-enabled devices If you would like to give us feedback or would like to contact our ministry for any reason, including prayer, visit our contact page at wwwconnectingthegapnet and send us a message. We hope you are blessed by this ministry. This is a production of Connecting the Gap Ministries.